Female Married Head of the Household

But what does it really mean to be a married female head of the household?

In the simplest terms, it means that your word is his law; your husband’s primary duty is always to yeild to you and obey your wishes.

To elaborate, being head of the household means that you make the important decisions and your decisions are final, including deciding what your husband is allowed to decide on his own. Where you disagree, he defers to your decision. You should develop the confidence to act on the basis of your role as head of the household and the strength and determination to help him adjust to his own supporting role.

You might ask his opinion to help you form your decision. It’s one of his responsibilities to share his opinion when you ask for it or when he thinks you expect or need it. But you should ultimately retreat to the privacy of your own mind to form your decision and own that decision once it’s made. Say, “thank you for sharing your opinion. Let me think about it and I’ll give you my decision when I’m ready.”

You may delegate the implementation of a decision to him. Once you make a decision you can relate your decision to him and then assign him the task of carrying it out. Say, “I’ve decided this. I want you to do this and do it this way. Let me know when it’s done.”

Perhaps most importantly, being head of the household means that your judgment, opinions, and priorities rule. In every real world situation there are ambiguities and unknowns. To deal with these we use our judgment, opinions, and priorities to fill in the blanks, bring order to the world, and suggest a course of action. Naturally, no two people are the same and we all tend to follow our own judgment, opinions, and priorities.

As head of the household you should indulge your own judgment, opinions, and priorities. You act on your own beliefs and values whenever the facts are unknown, insufficient, inadequate, or differently perceived. He must subordinate his judgment, opinions, and priorities to yours. For example, if you feel uncomfortable in a situation you should step back, form your own judgment, and then act on it whereas, once he has offered his opinion to you, he must accept your decision regardless of how it might conflict with his own judgment, opinions, and priorities.

As head of the household, you control the family finances. He is required to justify his expenses to you. But there is absolutely no need for you to explain anything whatsoever about the family finances to him. If you give him a budget it is his duty to follow it; if you require approval for certain purchases, he must obtain such approval. You, on the other hand, are free to spend as you alone see fit whether, in your judgment, for the benefit of the family or merely for your own enjoyment. For example, if you want to buy a new car, that is your decision alone but if he wants to purchase a new shirt he must seek your permission.

In many ways, time is money and so it is that his time is yours to budget or manage as you see fit. You should feel free to offload time consuming or otherwise undesirable tasks on him including family care, housework, shopping, and running errands. It is his responsibility to follow your direction in the management of his time and to seek permission for any deviances from your expectations with respect to his time.

Your preferences prevail in matters of aesthetics and leisure. For example, if the bedroom needs repainting, you select the colors. You decide where the family goes on vacation.

As head of the household, you are free to keep matters private as you choose. On the other hand, he has a duty to answer all your questions truthfully, fully, and directly and to inform you of anything that you would expect to have been informed about if you knew. Whereas you can enjoy open access to him, he’ll have to rely on trusting you.

As head of the household, you are bound only by your own conscience and you are free to change your mind at any time. For example, if you decide that he should paint the bedroom yellow and, after he’s am halfway through, you change your mind and choose blue, it is his duty to follow your new decision without complaint.

I have created a monster

We were coming back from a week-long camp vacation, in which I did not get to come because of the sleeping arrangements.

My wife asked how I was doing and I told her I was horny. She asked what we should do about that. She was having her period so sex was not an option (she does not want it during that time the month). I told her I could clean the weeks clothes and she could spank me to make me come that night. She agreed, saying she wanted everything washed – sheets and even clothes that were not dirty since the cabin had bugs in it..

The rest of the day, I washed clothes, cooked and cleaned the house while she slept and caught up on her Tivoed shows. There was way to much clothes to wash to finish by the end of the evening.

That evening, after my shower I got on the bed naked with a towel to catch my cum.

She asked if I was done with the clothes.

I told I was not.

She spanked my butt a couple of times.

I asked her if she would let me cum.

She told me she had not decided..

She spanked me a couple of more times

I told her if she wanted me to stay her slave boy she should stop

She did not stop.

I gratefully came.

I thought, that was the end of it. Normally when I come, the rest of the weekend is free time. But I was wrong.

The next morning my wife told me, you better get on the clothes if you want a spank again tonight. I am so weak and she knows it. All she has to do is hint that she is in charge and she knows I will drop in line.

When it started it was always my idea to be her slave-boy. If I did not feel like playing for a weekend, I just would not bring it up. Now, over half the time she will initiate it. Even if I did not want to before she mentioned it, as soon as she mentions that I should “get busy”, I am putty in her hand.

I wonder how far it will go. Will she have me as her slave almost every weekend because she has started to enjoy it and almost expect it? Will she start to bring it into the weekdays? I have become powerless to her whims…

I love my wife.

Weekdays and frequency.

Since that first weekend, me being submissive to her dominance have become a regular part of our sex life. I am happy to say.

It only occurs on the weekends. The weekdays are pretty normal. She may be reluctant for sex around Wednesday or Thursday “If I satisfy you now, you will not be in the mood this weekend”. But it is never the same Submissive/Dominance routine we go through some weekends.

We have been playing the game (that is one of our names for it) for over 2.5 years on some weekends. We have gone through months, where ever weekend we played. We have gone a month at a time when we do not play. We only play on weekends when we do not have a lot going on. (For example, it is hard for me to do her bidding if she is off with her sister for most of the weekend). So I guess in the past 2.5 years we have played about 50 weekends, or just under 50%.

When it started, I always had to initiate or volunteer for it. But as the years have past, my wife has become more and more vocal about wanting it and enjoying it. She has come to enjoy her relaxing weekends, she enjoys the house staying clean, and she enjoys the attention. I felt guilt at the beginning, she never shares a hidden fantasy with me, but when I shared mine (being submissive) she gave it a try. But since she ask for it so often, I have come to believe she enjoys it as well…


One of the things a submissive must become good at is giving a massage. On the weekends when I am under her control, I have to give my wife massages several times during the day and night.

On the couch while she is watching her show, her feet get massaged. At night after I satisfy her I massage her back. I wake her up from her afternoon nap with a gentle massage.

I have massage and body lotions located throughout the house. Whenever she ask or I see her bending over I will grab a lotion. The trick with lotion guys is to warm them up on your hands first…do not squirt them on her back, Put it on your hands massage them together then massage her.

One of the most intoxicating massages is when she is playing her computer game (spider solitaire). I will come behind her, spread the lotion (Currently “Moonlight Path”) on my hands and start to massage her back. Since she is sitting down and likes the massage on the lower part of her back, I have to get on my knees to massage her which add to the feeling of being submissive. After about 5 minutes my knees start to hurt which adds to the excitement. She will usually make me massage her till she wins which sometimes takes 30 minutes of exstacy.

I also enjoy the bath massages. While she takes a bath, I take a warm washcloth and rub her back as she leans forward. Then she leans back and I massage the front of her arms and to her naked breast.

Things I have learned:

– Use body lotion.

– She does not like warm massage stones (sounds like a good idea, but just feels like hot rocks)

-Warm the body lotion before using.

-Use circular pressure, do not knead it like dough.

I think any good submissive should learn how to give a good massage…it’s a part of your job.


This past Memorial day weekend, after coming back from a two night trip to the beach I slip into becoming my wife submissive again.

As I think back upon it after most of our out of town trips I become submissive to my wife on the way back. I think this is do to several factors…

  • During our vacations I sleep in a smaller bed with my wife so we are always in contact. We have a king size at home and can go all night without touching. So that gets me horny.
  • We never have sex on our vacations because of sleeping arrangements with the kids and relatives in the next room. So I get hornier.
  • On the trips back, I usually fantasize about being my wife’s submissive – because the horniness of it keeps me alert during driving.
  • My wife is exhausted from the vacation so she wants to rest and knows all she has to do is a little tease and denial and she gets a break.
  • There is always a lot of work to be done and my wife is appreciative of not having to do it.

These factors, lots of work, horniness, and an exhausted wife are a perfect mixture for a submissive weekend.

If others men want to introduce your wife to the perks of having a submissive husband I would suggest after getting back from your next vacation you tell your wife to relax while you unpack. I expect she will be very grateful and receptive to how to get more of this type of treatment.


In normal situations, I hate shopping. I always have. My wife has come to accept this as one of my weaknesses.

My wife loves to shop with me. Of all the things I do when I am her weekend slave, shopping with her tops her list. The only time it is really fun for her is when the kids are in school. We will go to an outlet mall in a neighboring suburb and shop away.

She enjoys that I go with her and bring her things to try on. She loves to spray perfume and have me tell her which one I like. After she has her items picked out, I will wait in line and deal with the checkout ladies while she looks around a little more. (Why are the checkouts so slow at women’s stores).

I take her to the chocolate store and buy her candy. I put money in the massaging chair and let her get a massage. I hold her hand. In general there are lots of opportunities for me to spoil her in a mall.

After we shop, we are always tired. When I am not her slave, I always get the nap.. But on these weekend she enjoys a good long nap.

So she has clothes she wants, she has chocolate, been spoiled, and well rested… I love making her happy.

Shower at night, or two days…

The next weekend started like the first. I cooked and cleaned on Friday with anticipation. My wife took my cue that I was in a submissive mood and pinched my ass and nipples to keep me horny. That Friday night she told me it was my job to get all the feedings for the night. Which I did, as I had done the weekend before.

The next day my wife woke up well rested to breakfast in bed. She was getting spoiled and I was loving it. She lounged around the day, more comfortable in her role. She would come and hug me, massage my cock until it was hard and then leave me in exstacy.

We had quickly fallen into a pattern of me doing things without being asked. I am reminded of a bumper sticker that said “I wish my man would stop asking me what I wanted done, and just do it”. She had no trouble keeping me horny, but did not really want to give me orders. So I took over doing what needed to be done.

After an evening enjoying meal I cooked and she enjoying a movie while I washed clothes, my wife said she was in the mood for sex and a bath. I had been kept on edge all day and was ready for release. Then she went into the bedroom to get ready, but I heard the bath going. She never took a bath before sex, only after. The only reason she would take a bath before if I was to satisfy her, and get no satisfaction myself. So it dawned on me that I would not get to come tonight, but she wanted to be satisfied. I went into the bathroom and washed her back with a warm wash clothe. Getting hornier all the time, washing her naked body, getting even hornier knowing this batch meant I would not get to come tonight.

And so it was. She got out and we went to bed and I used my mouth to satisfy her. She massaged my hard cock for a little bit then told me to go brush my teeth and come to bed for the night. I slipped in beside her and on her command massaged her back till she drifted off to sleep. I was soo horny that night.

The next day (Sunday) went as expected with me as horny as I was, doing her bidding the entire time. That night after making her come, she finally allowed me to come inside her.

That had pushed it from being her slave for about a day, to over two days (including Friday).

Some weekends we played for the entire weekend, sometimes just for Saturday. On Saturday night’s I am high with anticipation, not knowing if she will keep it going for the rest of the weekend or let me come. I am happy either way, I would enjoy coming and I would enjoy staying her slave for the rest of the day.

My Enjoyment

When I am her submissive husband for the day/weekend, I enjoy the hell out of myself. I had fantasized about it for years and now it finally came true. It really has two parts, the denial/teasing and the satisfaction of work.

When I daydreamed about this in the past I only focused on being kept horny. I love her teasing me. I love being horny and have her rap her arms around me and massage my ass pulling my hard cock to her. I love brushing her breast against me. The game gives so many changes for her to make me horny. Since I have not come in a while, I enjoy them all.

I never expected how good keeping busy and satisfying my wife would feel. There is a certain amount of pleasure in job well done. I work in an office and seldom see tangible results from my work. But a cleaned kitchen and vacuumed house makes me feel like I accomplished something (not to mention the joy I receive as my wife massaging my cock, not to let me come).

In addition there is pleasure in satisfying my wife. A good meal, a relaxing massage, clean sheets, or a oral satisfaction – They all give me great pride. Any guy who enjoys satisfying his women, just for the sake of satisfying her should understand this.

All in all, I do not know why I enjoy being this submissive husband so much. When it over and I come, I think why do I let myself get put into these situations (Which is probably what you, the reader are thinking). But when it is happening I am in ecstasy.

Submissive Husband – Sample Weekend

So far this blog has been about different aspects of our weekends when I am submissive. This past weekend we played the game.

It kinda started on Thursday. My wife was home all day and I asked whether she had supper cooked since she was home all day. This upset her as she had spent the whole day taking care of the kids.

When I say something that upsets her, she is more in the mood to make me her slave-boy for the weekend. Not so much as a punishment for me, as she knows I enjoy it. More of wanting to feel empowered and pampered, after feeling degraded by my comment.

So on Friday I got home, she was home all day, but the house was a mess. She causully suggest that there was chicken in the fridge that she would like. As I was cleaning the kitchen, she said to my daughter in a kidding tone that “I am putting daddy to work”. It is like that sometime at the beginning of the weekend, she has not overtly said I was going to be her slave-boy, but gives hints.

With the kitchen cleaned and food on I walked into our bedroom to see her playing games on the computer. She said, I need a massage come over and rub my shoulders. I rub her shoulders a little bit standing behind her. She told me to rub the lower part of her back. She knows I can not rub her lower back without getting on my knees behind in a submissive position.

So I know the game has started and she wants me to be her slave-boy. I am under her spell and fall to my knees behind her, reach for the massage oil, and begin massaging her back. Although I can not see her, I know she is grinning, knowing she has me. She pulls her shirt up around her neck so I can massage her whole back.

We talk about what needs to be done in the house before I will allowed to come and she starts the list while I massage her back:

– Change the air filters

– Wash and clean the inside of her car

– Clean the carpet where the kids spilled milk from the front door to the kitchen.

– Change the ruffle cover under the mattress

– Wash the sheets

Of course it is understood that I have to clean the downstairs part of the house, keep the kitchen clean, fix meals/snack, and wash all the clothes in the house. Those are things I have to do ever weekend which she is the boss.

While I am setting up the table she comes into the kitchen and cuddles up to me and pinches my nipples for a while until my cock is about to blow through my pants. She tells me to get busy and sits down and the table to be served.

We eat without much incident. While I am cleaning, she tells me she is going shopping.

While she is gone, I start on my list while keeping the laundry going.

She gets back from shopping after a couple of hours and ask if want the model her new swimsuit, to which I eagerly agree. On weekends I am her slave-boy I especially enjoy watching her dress and undress. It increases the anticipation and pushes me further into her submission.

She sits down to watch TV. While she is watching I bring her cut strawberries and drinks. I keep on cleaning the house and washing the clothes.

At night I heard the bath-tub running. Whenever we are going to have sex she waits till afterwards to cleanup. So I know that she does not want me to be released tonight.

She tells me to put in one of her XXX rated movies so she can get in the mood and for me to get to work. So I put in her movie and go out to put photos in albums that she has been pestering me to do for a while.

I come in and ask her if she needs more time, but she beckons me in. I ask her if she wants my cock, my tounge or her friends. She ask if I can last another day, I nod that can. She ask me to get her friend. So I get the rabbit which spins, rotates and vibrates.

She keeps watching her adult movie..

I kiss her body for a while, but her hand pushes my hand into action on her pussy. After a few minutes of playing with her clit, I bring her vibrator to her pussy. I shove it in,vibrating, just a bit and pull it out several time. I can feel her body pushing back against it. I move it up to massage her clit and she groans a little.

She keeps watching her adult movie..

I shove the head in and out again. Her hand brushes against the back of my hand and know she wants it in more. I shove it in and turn the rotate on and the vibrator a little faster. Sometimes I keep her in this state for a long time, turning the vibrator faster/slower to keep her just on the edge. Today she does not seem interested as after a little while, the hand is on the back of my head, the sign that she wants my tounge on her clit.

She keeps watching her adult movie..

I turn the vibrator faster and plunge to her pussy. She comes rather quickly and pushes my face away. I turn the vibrator off and go up to hold her for a while. She holds me closer and tells me how awesome it was.

I removed her vibrator, turned the video off. Cleaned the vibrator and put all the toys away.

I laid down beside her and she cuddled up to me, stroking my cock for a little while and playing with my nipples for a long while, till I was so horny I wanted to bust.

She turned over and asked me to massage her back while she went to sleep. Which I did and then slowly drifted off to a fitful night sleep.

The next morning she slept in while I dress and fed the children. I cooked her breakfast and brought it to her as she showered.

My day was busy as I cleaned and cooked. Her day was relaxing as she watched TV, played computer games, and took and an afternoon nap.

There were several opportunities for her to keep me in the mood. She pinched. She stroked my cock through my clothes. Once she bent me over the kitchen and came behind me to give me a pounce.

That night while watching TV, I brought her strawberries and drinks. I sat on the couch with her feet in my lap massaging her feet. (Neither of us are into the whole foot worship thing, but too each his own).

That night, I had completed my list. My wife was not in the mood for sex, but she did give me the next best thing. Me on my back, her without her shirt, she wrappes her breast around my cock, she squeezes my nipples and digs her nails into my but until I come.

The weekend of being her slave-boy was over. I got a lot done and she got a lot of rest.

I love my wife.

Meals, Snacks, and Drinks

On the weekends in which my wife is the boss, I become quite the chef. I have learned how to cook new low-fat items and keep her happy with her favorite snacks.

I sometime shop on Friday nights after I have satisfied her and she is asleep. I am usually horny to sleep so I go shopping with the food for the weekend in mind.

The morning I prepare her eggs, tortilla, and salsa with sides of grapes, orange juice and bottled water. Brought to her on a serving tray while she is showering or playing computer.

Lunch is a smaller snack of pasta or sometimes eat out for.

Afternoon is when I shine. I cook her deviled eggs or armadillo eggs, shrimp salsa. I try to have a snack ready for her when she wakes from her afternoon nap. It makes her especially happy to get up to a good snack – I can always count on extra teasing afterwards.

At nights I cook one of her favorites from the weight watchers cookbook. On the weekdays if I cook, she will clean. But when we are playing the game- of course I get to do both.

At night I will get her strawberries sliced into Yogurt. I will keep her glass full with drinks such as margaritas or mud slides.

I like making my wife happy and she is very happy when she is well fed with food she enjoys. When I cook for her she is very appreciative – always pinching my nipples or massaging my but to keep my horny.

I love my wife.